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“So Annoying”: 5 Ways to Combat Complaining in Your Life

Health and Growth

“So Annoying”: 5 Ways to Combat Complaining in Your Life

Complaining is easy to do. From being dissatisfied at work, unhappy at home, or frustrated with your church, there’s an endless list of ways you may be tempted to complain.

The kids always argue.

I can’t believe they gave my colleague a promotion.

The coffee is too hot at church.

The way we used to do things was better.

Why won’t my congregation listen?

We can blame our fixation with complaining in general on culture or social media. But the temptation to be discontent and complain can be traced back to Genesis 3.

Satan tempted Adam and Eve to be discontent in what they had, and Adam complained about Eve and blamed everything on her (Gen. 3:12).

Today, according to research, "most people complain once a minute during a typical conversation.” This amount of complaining not only makes conversations unpleasant, but it also has adverse health effects, and, most importantly of all, complaining expresses discontentment with God.

I don’t know about you, but I know that I struggle with complaining. I’ve had to seek forgiveness from the Lord many times, and I continually need his help in redirecting my desires.

Over the years, I’ve found many helpful ways to kill my sin of complaining when it blossoms like an unwelcome weed, and I’d like to share them with you today.

#1. You will have trouble

“In the world you will have tribulation.” —John 16:33

If you’ve lived long enough, then you know that you’ll face a variety of problems, setbacks, or hardships. Life isn’t easy, and faith in Jesus doesn’t give you a “Go Directly to Glory” pass where you'll live outside of the reach of any struggle.

Regardless of the technological, scientific, or healthcare advancements we’ve made,  we are still vulnerable to everyday problems, extreme weather, and dangerous bacteria.

My aim in telling you this isn’t to make your day go from bad to worst. I desire to wave a smelling salt under your nose to wake you up to the reality all of us face: We will face problems, and we need help.

#2. You will be tempted to complain

“Do all things without grumbling… “ —Philippians 2:14

I don’t know about you, but I’m often tempted to complain when things don’t go my way. From an argument with my wife, a setback at work, or trouble with my children, I’m inclined to grumble about things.

It’s not my fault.

Why do they always do this? What’s their problem?

Ugh, I can’t believe this didn’t work out. Things will never change.

It’s easy to get caught up in a cycle of grumbling about things and people. Events in life can slowly lead you to have a negative; my glass is half-empty point of view and a belief that God isn’t for you.

As a follower of Christ, there’s a way you can complain or grumble in a sinful manner that undermines God’s goodness and faithfulness toward you. And there’s a way you can faithfully express your complaints to God, and ask for his mercy (see Psa. 142:1-2).

Related: 3 Reasons Why Giving Will Help You to Be Content

To have God’s perspective on what’s going on in our life, we have to renew our mind (Rom. 12:1-2) and see things from his point of view, which leads me to the next three points.

#3. God is faithful

“Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.” —Matthew 6:8

When you run into trouble of any sort, it’s easy to get distracted by what you see and forget about God’s faithfulness.

Today, whenever you find yourself reading this article, God knows what you need now and what you will need tomorrow and for the rest of your life.

God isn't distant.

God isn’t aloof.

God didn’t forget about you.  

Heed the words of Christ, who said, “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them” (Matt. 6:26).

God has been faithful to his people throughout history, and, if you take a moment to think about your life, I know you’ll be able to identify many ways God has faithfully taken care of you—especially in revealing himself to you in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

So be encouraged.

God is faithful, and he will be faithful to you.

#4. God is with you

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” —Psalm 46:1

God is personally involved in your life.

You may believe in the depths of your soul that God is more interested in what’s going on around the world. But don’t believe this lie. Regardless of the troubles you’ve faced or will face; God is present with you.

When you feel discouraged or disappointed, or you’re facing what appears to be insurmountable odds, God is with you, and he is always available for you.

Instead of trusting in yourself, listen to the words of Jesus, who is calling you, “Come to me, all how labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28).

#5. Trust in the Lord

“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.” —John 14:1

The verse above is not a suggestion from Jesus, it’s a command, and this may be precisely what you need to hear today.

Jesus knows you feel disappointment.

Jesus understands your anger.

Jesus gets your frustrations.

In the words of the author of Hebrews, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin” (Heb. 4:15).

Have you carried the burdens of life by yourself?

Is your heart troubled by the struggles you face?

Don’t hide from the Lord. Place your faith in Christ, trust that he will provide for you, and receive the peace that only he can provide.

What have you found helpful in combatting complaining in your life? Share your experience in the comments below!

Expert Tips on How to Effectively Launch a New Online Giving Tool

01
Make it accessible so people can give in the way that is most comfortable to them. Don't make it hard for people to give money.
Some people like to give online, some like mobile, some like text. Whatever they like, let them give in that way if you can.
02
Brady Shearer
www.storytape.com
Talk about it every single week. Consistently promote it on every platform. 
Be patient. We all resist change.
03
Michael Lukaszewski
www.churchfuel.com
Launch it to your staff, your leaders, and your volunteers (in that order) and help those groups use it before you launch it publicly.
04
Teach it in your new member class.
Allow for people to sign-up right on the spot via their mobile phone (or through a laptop or iPad for those that don't have a mobile device handy).
05
Justin Dean
www.thatcc.com
On launch weekend, have volunteers and staff accessible with iPads to walk people through how to set up an account and get recurring giving configured.
06
Daniel Irmler
www.churchhero.com
On a regular basis, tell stories from members who are using and loving it. 
You don't don’t need a big production value shoot. Keep it simple by using an iPhone (horizontal) and a decent mic.
07
Invite your congregation to take out their phones and download the mobile giving app right in the service.
08
Nik Goodner
www.crtvchurch.com
Explain the why behind the change and highlight the benefits of the new system. 
People like to be "on the team".
09
Kevin Ekmark
www.church.org
I always tell people, "you need to clean your house before you invite friends over". It's crucial that your giving platform is easily found, whether it's on the web or in the church. 
On the web, making sure that your website is mobile friendly (Google and Bing both recommend mobile responsive design) can be a huge help. You can also incorporate bots from Facebook or a service like Intercom to help walk people through online giving on your website. When necessary, a human can jump in and help too. This helps complete the process from being found online to completing the online giving.
10
Logan Fields
www.theappguys.org
Tell them the real reasons. Giving members are concerned with what's best for the church and not just what they individually prefer. Transparency.
"This platform will allow us to better manage finances and spend less staff time on the books and more on people." etc. The temptation is to treat members like consumers who we need to impress instead of team members. Treat them like equals who you assume are interested in what's best for the church/ mission and people will likely rise to it.
11
Kenny Jahng
www.kennyjahng.com
Launch a $3.16 campaign. Ask people to all give just $3.16 to a weekly or bi-weekly blessing fund. Then, pick one person or cause to bless IN TOWN and go give that person all the money collected.
  • It could be the all volunteer firefighter squad in town. "We'll take all the $3.16's collected and go buy a meal or treat and drop off for the firefighters who volunteer."
  • It could be a widow the church knows about - bless her with something new for her home or hobby or pets.
  • Single mothers - supply them with a night out. Or pay for a house cleaner or a handyman for a couple of hours.
  • Special needs families - pay for evening out for the parents and child care for the special needs kids so the parents get a break.
  • You can ask for "sponsors" in the future, getting people to nominate good causes (let the youth do this!) and let them deliver the blessing and report back each sunday.
  • You can ask for "sponsors" in the future, getting people to nominate good causes (let the youth do this!) and let them deliver the blessing and report back each sunday.
This works incredibly well because you are teaching generosity / outward posture to your people on a consistent basis and getting people to give on mobile- while making it about PARTICIPATION vs AMOUNT. You'll have people regularly trying out the mobile option as well as pre-register them in the system.

There you have it! Some amazing tips, right?

Which tip stood out the most to you … or looked to be the craziest?! Share with us in the comments below, we’d love to hear from you!

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“So Annoying”: 5 Ways to Combat Complaining in Your Life

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